I'm Fine Being Me

I’m the kind of guy who can turn a room on fire if that’s what I want to do. I’m a demonic networker — charismatic and fun. But at the same time, being alone is becoming more and more appealing and easier.

Solo travelling for such a long time has helped me lean into this even more. I have my own style — it’s quirky, playful, but also subtle. When I’m alone, I can rely on my own social intelligence and not dilute it with somebody else’s. This actually allows me to bridge happiness more easily when I’m vulnerable and trying, than when I’m with someone else.

My Chinese friend did say some things that I didn’t agree with, and some shopkeepers got impatient with her. Once she left, for me, it was a real relief. It made me realise I’ve come so far. I don’t need anyone or want anyone — I’m fine being me and walking into the world as my full self, no longer needing approval or trying to fit in.

There are people in this hotel enjoying cocktails and karaoke. If I don’t enjoy alcohol and don’t like karaoke, I just walk past the group. They may perceive it as rude, but I would much rather work towards my book and enjoy the quiet street food on my own, letting those street sounds wash over me.

It’s simple — and I’m getting more comfortable with that.